New Help for Children with Autism, ADHD, Asthma, & Allergies

It seems I’ve been learning lots of
new information lately about childhood vaccinations and their potential effects
on a child’s health. Many children receive the full regime of 36 vaccines before
the age of six with seemingly no harm, yet many children experience tragic consequences. It's increasingly important for parents to be conscious
and cautious in the decisions they make regarding their child's well-being.

I’ve just read Healing the New
Childhood Epidemics—Autism, ADHA, Asthma, and Allergies: The Groundbreaking
Program for the 4-A Disorders
by Kenneth Bock, M.D. He is the co-founder and
co-director of the Rhinebeck Health Center and The Center for Progressive
Medicine
at Albany Medical College in New York. This book follows children with severe
health challenges through Dr. Bock’s healing program and explains in depth the healing program he developed. His web site is full of information.

Dr. Bock cites the dramatic increase
during the last 20 years of the 4-A disorders. Autism has increased, according
to most estimates, by 1500% to 6000%, ADHA by at least 400%, asthma by 300%,
and allergies by 400%. If you add all of these disorders together, it comes to
20 million children or almost one-third of all American children. These
dramatic figures call for us to pay attention and to ask new questions.

Bock doesn’t just cite childhood
vaccines as potential causes. He believes four major changes have occurred in
the last 20 years
that contribute to this debilitating illnesses in children.
These include the following: 1). Toxins proliferated; 2) Nutrition
deteriorated; 3). Vaccinations increased; 4) Ability to detoxify dwindled.

All of these combined result in
compromised immune, gastrointestinal, and nervous systems in children’s bodies.
We also need to be aware that these same environmental changes affect all of
us, whether we notice them or not.

My friend Jack Travis, M.D. of the Alliance for the Transformation of Children's Lives (aTLC) recently gave me
information about an online video that shares a heart-touching story of Max, whose
parents bring him to Dr. Bock’s office for help.

Being informed is essential for all
parents in order to make wise decisions for children. It’s also imperative to
ask new questions instead of blindly following the status quo. Parents must
trust and listen to themselves when they feel cautious about their child’s
well-being. In many stories I’ve read, parents whose child developed autism report
feeling hesitant about giving a vaccination to their child when he was ill, but
were reassured by their doctor not to worry.

All professionals and experts are
people,
just like everyone else. Sometimes they get it wrong and make a mistake. Your best guidance comes from your child and your own
inner knowing.
Always take them into consideration.

 

Excellent Gift Idea for Children

I just
bought three beautiful books for holiday gifts from the Global Fund for Children.
The Global Fund for Children’s mission
is to advance the dignity of children and youth around the world. GFC pursues its mission by making small
grants to innovative community-based organizations working with some of the
world’s most vulnerable children and youth.

One of the outstanding contributions
GFC makes is by a dynamic media program that, through books, documentary
photography, and film, highlights the issues affecting children and celebrates
the global society in which we all live. Their books are BEAUTIFUL and
inspiring
!

The books are for children ages
infant to early teens. I bought two copies of Global Babies, a boardbook for
infants and toddlers with close-up photos of babies from several areas of the
world. This book was recognized by Oprah as outstanding.

The other book I bought is Come Out
and Play
, which has full-color photos of children playing around the world. Photos
include Playing a string game in Egypt, Riding a tricycle in the Dominican
Republic, Flying a kite in China. These books make excellent conversation
starters
with children about different cultures and the lives of people around
the world. Make sure you have a globe handy!

Plus the books are reasonably priced
for these interesting economic times.

With a
small investment of money, you have a beautiful book for a child, you support a
non-profit that makes an important contribution to children who need it most,
and you expand your child’s global awareness. What a delightful investment and
way to share the joy of the season!

Nebraska’s Safe Haven Law—What Went Wrong?

A few weeks ago Nebraska limited its
Safe Haven Law to infants 30 days old or younger. Previously they set no age
limit and simply specified ‘child.’ Nothing happened for the first 2 months.
Then in the next three months, 34 children were abandoned in hospitals
throughout the state, none of whom were infants and 5 were from other states.

 Many people believe the problem is inadequate
mental health services for children
. Nebraska parents complained of not being
able to get their child to take their medication and being turned away from
programs because their child wasn’t bad enough, hadn’t committed a crime or his
parents made too much money.

When a child fails to conform to
parental and educational standards and expectations, on the surface this
appears to be a problem of the child having a psychological – social disorder. In
these situations, parents assume the problem is with the child and rush to get
their child diagnosed and treated, often with medication.

What I’ve found is that not all
children are willing to conform to adult expectations
and standards. Those
children who do conform to please adults compromise their own integrity and
emotional wholeness. They try to be good rather than being themselves. In fact,
a strong case can be made that those children who don’t fit are in better shape
emotionally and socially than those who conform.

So what’s the answer? Children are
hard-wired to lovingly connect with their parents and to succeed in life.
It’s
what every child desires. If we want to encourage this positive self-expression
in children, then parents, educators and school systems need to evaluate their
own behavior to find how they can empower the emotional wholeness in children.

When we pressure and demand that
children conform, children have one of two choices
—either they conform and do
what they’re told or they resist and are labeled. Neither is a good option.
Society, parents and educators need to re-think what children need from us and
how we can best support them. We’re asking the wrong questions and going in the
wrong direction.

 

 

 

The Price of Too Much Authority

“Downfall” is an intense,
historically-authentic film
about Hitler’s last days in his Berlin bunker. It’s
based on the documentary Blind Spot: Hitler’s Secretary, in which the German
dictator’s stenographer, Traudl Junge, tells her story of these emotionally
intense days.

What most touched me about the film
is the price paid in human clarity, compassion, and free will when someone
takes on the role of The Authoritarian and others submissively follow. When
people around the world reflect back on the events in Nazi Germany, they often
feel confused and appalled that a bright, educated people could allow the
atrocities committed in their name.

This film makes it powerfully clear.
It’s all about too much authority. When children are taught to follow
instructions and to obey their elders, the people in authority in their life,
they stop thinking for themselves. They lose their autonomy and independence
and easily succumb to doing what they are told, even when it goes against their
own inner sense of right and wrong.

There are powerfully dramatic
moments in the film that demonstrate the disconnect people have from their own
emotional wholeness when they unthinkingly give up their power and seniority to
someone to has obviously lost touch with reality. People urgently clinging to
the hope that Hitler will find a way out. People carrying out his orders to
fight to the last man even when circumstances indicate it is hopeless.

Even more poignant were the
suicides
, couples shooting each other, a mother poisoning her own children.
People partying and drinking as if everything were safe and normal.

All of these people were grown,
capable adults who continued their childhood pattern of doing what they were
told and not thinking for themselves.

For his part, Hitler was a
demanding, self-consumed little boy in an adult body who refused to accept the
downfall of his regime. He expected blind and total obedience, even after he
and his wife committed suicide together and left his closest followers and the
people of Germany to fend for themselves as Russian troops took over Berlin. He
was blinded by his own need to win and control.

The message to parents and educators
is to be aware and cautious of the obedience you seek to extract from your
children and students.
No one wins in a scenario of authoritarianism and
control by adults.

Naturally, parental and educator over-use of power seldom results in such extreme actions by young people; however, the cost to children and their caregiver are still high. Children’s natural brilliance and self-confidence is
diminished. Their ability to think for themselves and be true to themselves is
compromised. Plus you place yourself in the position of leader without always
knowing what you’re doing and where you’re going.

I highly recommend this movie “Downfall.”
There are a few vivid scenes, which can turn your stomach, yet it’s really
worth watching when you study what’s happening psychologically
and the
emotional damage caused by too much authority based on fear. This movie is not
for children or the faint of heart.

Failure to Launch

The movie Failure to Launch is very funny and entertaining. Matthew McConaughey and Sarah
Jessica Parker star in a story about a thirty-something man who lives at home
with his parents. Sarah is hired by his parents to get him to move out of the
family home.

This movie
addresses an increasingly prevalent phenomenon of young people moving back in
with their parents after college or never moving out at all. One of the special
features with the DVD is a collage of interviews with grown men who still live
at home and their parents as well as authors in the field.

The argument
presented by the men and their parents for living together is they love each
other and it makes practical financial sense. I totally understand this
perspective.

The thing
that concerned me, however, was the dependence and lack of autonomy and
personal freedom
that both parents and children experienced in their
relationship with one another. All the men said they’d like to move out some
day and yet emotionally seemed unable to do so.

As I
listened to the parents talk, they want their sons at home to meet their
emotional, not the needs of their sons. Their sons needed to be empowered and
their emotional wholeness nurtured.

The foundation
of this kind of limiting relationship between parents and their children begins
when children are young
. The pattern simply continues into adulthood. We see
more of these in modern times because of current parenting beliefs and
practices in our culture.

The only way
this kind of living situation can truly work and be emotionally healthy for
both parents and children is that each person has complete autonomy to be who
they are. The only agreements and expectations are based on sharing the
day-to-day necessities of living.

It is not
emotionally healthy or empowering to anyone when parents continue taking care
of their children in ways they can do for themselves. Then children struggle to
develop the skills they need to take care of themselves and fail to launch.