Myth-Busting Bullying: These Strategies Don’t Work

September 15, 2013 By Leave a Comment

Just a quick note to let you know I’ve posted  new videos in my series “Myth-Busting Bullying.” I hope you have had chance to watch the first three in the series. If not, I’ve listed the links to those videos at the end of this email.

The Good News about bullying is that many parents, educators and community leaders care deeply about the high price of bullying to a child’s self-esteem and are taking action to try to stop this problem that keeps growing.

The Bad News is that many of their efforts are based on faulty understanding about children, bullying, it’s causes and what to do about it. Well-intentioned experts are doing the best they can, yet much of their attention is on the ‘bully” and the “bystanders,’ and their strategies are often based on false assumptions about how to prevent bullying.

In today’s two videos, I share 3 common strategies to stop bullying between children, yet each one has limited effectiveness.

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If you have questions or concerns about bullying and you want practical, do-able strategies that work, you’ll love my class “How to Bully-Proof Your Child and What to Do If It Happens.”

Click here to get more info and register now!

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If you haven’t had a chance to watch the first two videos in the series, here are the links:

Myth-Busting Bullying: How Big a Problem Is It Really?

Myth-Busting Bullying: What’s It Really All About?

Myth-Busting Bullying:The Bully is Not the Bad Guy

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Here is the first video:  Myth-Busting Bullying: These Strategies Don’t Work

Here is the 2nd video: Myth-Busting Bullying: Make More Rules and Policies?

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Myth-Busting Bullying:The Bully is Not the ‘Bad’ Guy

September 12, 2013 By Leave a Comment

Bullying is so intricately tied to how we relate to one another, how we perceive one another, that it is important for every parent to have a clear understanding of the dynamics and causes of bullying.

Today’s video introduces key insights into the relationship between the ‘bully’ and ‘victim’ and how we as parents, educators and society respond to this limiting dynamic.

You’ll discover new ways of perceiving and understanding the relationships between all people of all ages, including your own painful beliefs about situations where you have been bullied..

The video is below.

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If you’d like to know what you can do to empower your child to be more confident with her peers and in other social situations, I invite you to join me for my new teleclass “How to Bully-Proof Your Child and What to Do If It Happens.”

This video series about Myth-Busting Bullying is the beginning content of the class in which you will discover:

  • A major cause of bullying that most experts overlook. You will be surprised!
  • Strategies to empower your child socially so she is less vulnerable to being bullied
  • The most important thing you can do to support your child to tell you when he’s been bullied. This is SO important!
  • How to best help your child respond to bullying – what works and what doesn’t

Click here to register and get more info.

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If you haven’t had a chance to watch the first two videos in the series, here are the links:

Myth-Busting Bullying: How Big a Problem Is It Really?

Myth-Busting Bullying: What’s It Really All About?

Has anyone ever told you that you were doing something ‘bad,’ and you were just doing the best you could at the time? Let us know in Comments below.

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Create Awesome Family Adventures!

July 23, 2013 By Leave a Comment

Wow! It’s been a long time since I posted! I’m missing you! I feel an emptiness in my life from not communicating with you.

I hope you’re having a fun summer with your family because that is what this note is all about. I’ve been having a fun summer! Doug and I took our two grandchildren Sebastian and Madison, ages 5 & 2, camping in wilds of the Sierra Mountains several weeks ago and recently returned from a family adventure in Colorado.

6_Rcky_Mtn_SignIt was an interesting experience early on a Friday morning, all 6 of us traipsing into SFO – Our son Orion and his family and Doug and I. From there, the adventure began as we explored SW Denver area and attended a family wedding, 3 fun days at a cabin near Colorado Springs, then 2 days visiting my brother and his family near Rocky Mountain National Park.

It turns out Colorado is prime dinosaur territory, perfect for Sebastian and Madison (actually all 6 of us!), plus we all know the Rockies are breath-taking. I’ve posted photos here of our adventures.

I know family vacations like this often come home filled with horror stories of arguments, upsets, and promises to never do that again. We had a couple of brief tough spots and then easily moved on. We were a team, creating our fun times and explorations together, allowing everyone space to be who they are.

Here are some tips for creating your own Awesome Adventures:

1. Do them! Without choosing an experience or destination and putting it in your calendar, everything that follows is meaningless. Make the time. Be courageous!

2. Choose an adventure you can easily do, not one that will cause you more stress. A 4-hour visit to a cool museum or into nature may be a better fit for you than a week camping or exploring New York City. Make it comfortably do-able.

3. Remember you want to create a win-win experience, so choose your adventure to delight everyone. Asking someone to fit into your agenda or need to see the relatives without including special experiences for everyone may not be so promising.

4. Focus on your highest priority. For most of us, this is going to be having fun together. Remember this during those moments of misunderstanding or annoyance, which are bound to occur. Be responsible for your own emotions and behavior in how your respond. You don’t want a knock-down-drag-out over the choice of a restaurant.

5. Get out in Nature. It is simply good for everyone. One of the wonderful things about being in Nature is she invites you to s-l-o-w down, to smell the wildflowers, to enjoy the inspiring view and to BE. Nature will also touch your heart, creating an opportunity for you and your family to feel more present and connected to one another.

We all go into summer with lots of anticipation of fun family times. What can you do to have even more Awesome Adventures with your family this summer? Please share in ‘Comments’ below.

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Happy trails!

To your Joyous Family!
Connie

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Impatience with Your Child is Your Invitation to Grow!

June 7, 2013 By Leave a Comment

“Your impatience with your child is your invitation to grow.” Usually parents groan and lean back in their chairs when they hear me say this. This is not the answer they were hoping for.

“Isn’t there some way I can get my child to change so I don’t become so frustrated with her?” they think. “I was hoping there is a quick technique I can use with her behavior so she’ll do what I want.”

Wonderfully for you, the answer to that question is “No. Not if you want a close, happy relationship with your child Not if you’re looking for a long-term solution and not just a short-term quick fix. Not if you want your child to blossom into her potential.”

The things your child does that annoy or irritate you are such gifts to you as a person, even though it doesn’t feel that way at the time. They are your pathway to growing as a person and becoming an even better parent.

Many of you have heard me say, “There is only one person whose behavior you can change.” — More groans.

What makes this so difficult to hear? Because it seems to be human nature to want the other person to change. Wouldn’t that be so much easier than wrestling with and figuring out your part in your un-fun interaction patterns?

When you wrestle with your own limiting beliefs and emotions, you discover new insights and understandings about yourself, your child and how to create a partnership that works for both of you.

This is one of the best gifts of being a parent – being called on by your child’s uniqueness to let go of limiting beliefs and emotions that no longer serve you. Your child’s irritating response to you and your own angry or harsh response to your child are action-stirring feedback that it’s time to look int he mirror.

When you step back and take the time to reflect, there are all kinds of possibilities of what you’ll discover. Perhaps you’ll realize:

  • You’re expecting or demanding too much of your child.
  • Your own fears or desire to be the perfect parent or to have a perfect child are getting in the way.
  • Your child is ‘running the show’ too much in your family.
  • This issue is not a battle worth fighting.
  • This list goes on…

I invite you to explore with me what your impatience is telling you and what you can do to have more harmony, ease, and fun relating with your child. This getting frustrated, angry, or hurtful with your child is so limiting for everyone both now and in the future.

I promise you it can be so much easier!

Ready to explore?

Great! My new Parenting Solutions teleclass “Keep Your Cool: How to Be More Patient with Your Child” is Monday, June 10.

Click here now to sign-up and learn more.

I invite you to put yourself in the driver’s seat of your own emotions, beliefs, and choices. Learn new ways to deal with your frustrations and stress without being negative toward your child. The price to your family is way too high.

 

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De-Stress Your Life for Parents Part 2

May 15, 2013 By Leave a Comment

As part of ‘De-Stress Your Life for Parents Month,’ here is another video to keep you moving forward.

I discovered the Cycle of Stress a couple of weeks ago when I was planning my class on de-stressing for parents. Even though the topic may sound boring, it is quite fascinating how we add to the stress we experience.

This video will:

  • give you a bigger perspective and understanding how stress gets triggered
  • the role you play in keeping stress going–Yes, you are a key player!
  • greater clarity about what you can do to experience less stress and be more connected to yourself and your family.
Are ready to take action to have less stress in your life?

In my “De-Stress Your Life for Parents” downloadable program, you will :

  • Learn the true cause of most, if not all, of your stress. It’s seldom talked about!
  • Discover the two most compelling reasons to de-stress your life now. You’ll be surprised!
  • Have at your finger tips a menu of do-today strategies to get yourself back on track when things get tough.
  • Come away with personal insights about you and your unique ways of coping with stress.

Click here to find out more.

I invite you to make de-stressing a priority in your life. This alone will make profound positive changes for you and your family.

To your Joyous Family!
Connie

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