Being a Great Parent May Not Mean What You Think

Today I offer you a new perspective on being a parent, one which you might not have really considered before. Yet it is hugely important in bringing out the best in your child and to make parenting more fun and fulfilling.

The beauty of Number 7 of my Top Ten Parenting Tips is that it does not require you to try to change your child. Instead, the steps you can take are totally in your own hands.

Curious? Good!

No, I’m not going to tell you what it is. I really want you to watch this short (about 4.5 minutes) video to see what you discover for yourself.

Then share with me and other moms — What is calling you?

Get Out of the House…and Play!

Doug and I recently returned from visiting my brother and his wife in Estes Park, Colorado, near Rocky Mountain National Park. To add to the excitement, we took our 5-year-old grandson Sebastian.

This is Sebastian’s first airplane flight since he was an infant, and I don’t know which of us is more excited – him or me. I am thrilled to be sharing this experience with him. He arrives at our home eager to get to the airport; then at the airport goes through dropping off our bags and security with ease. He is impatient to get on the plane and then for the plane to take off.

Every step of the way he wants to know what is going on. “When are we getting something to eat?” “Why are we stopping?” “Are we going to take off now?”

A few seconds after take-off, he grabs his stomach and exclaims, “Whew, I feel a little nauseous!”

He waits a couple of seconds, looks out the window again, and exclaims breathlessly, “Whoa! I’m a little scared!” Then leans back in his seat for a few seconds to re-group.

Soon he is over his caution and he gazes out the window, studying all he sees below. While still over the Bay Area, he points out the window and eagerly tells me, “Look, Connie. It looks like a map down there!”

Brilliant observation, He’s right. I’ve never thought of it that way. Through the eyes of a child…

On our return flight, Sebastian is now a veteran flyer. He knows what’s expected as we go through all the airport procedures, even taking 100% responsibility for his things going through security. I wasn’t about to touch his bin!

Family adventures give us such joyous, magical memories and deepen our connection with one another. They expand your child’s self-confidence, understanding of the world and ability to enjoy and be successful in life. A bargain at any price!

Below are more photos of our trip, plus tips and suggestions for creating your own fall family adventure, whether it’s an outing of a few hours or a weekend journey.

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I invite you to create your own adventure with your family this fall. Even though summer is over, you can still get out and enjoy the fresh coolness of fall.

When planning a family adventure, here are important guidelines to follow:

!. Choose you destination and activity together. Just because you drive the car, your vote does not trump everyone else’s.

2. If you simply cannot agree on a destination, then work out an agreement that works for everyone. This weekend we go here; next weekend we do what someone else wants to do. The agreement also includes no whining, complaining, or feet-dragging when it’s not your pick.

3. Think outside the box. What can you do that will be new to everyone, even if you’re not sure you’ll like it. Be willing to experiment.

4. Stretch your comfort zone. Maybe the idea of playing video games is like fingernails on a chalkboard. Yet can two hours exploring something your child loves ruin your day or do you harm? Perhaps you’ll discover something new about your child, and he might even see you in a different light.

5. Don’t let your child of any age talk you out of your resolve to do something together. Toughing it out with Mom and Dad won’t destroy his sense of self. Or it might, which could be a good thing.

Here are some activities you could do in a a couple of hours or a weekend:

~ Visit your closest state park for a day or a weekend and go exploring.

~ Take a hike. On our trip to Colorado, Sebastian hiked 4 miles at an elevation of about 12,000 feet without complaint or whining. Give your child of any age the opportunity to challenge his body and build endurance and strength.

~ Travel to the nearest body of water – a stream, lake or ocean. Walk beside it. Play in it. Look in to see what you can find.

~ Visit a museum near your home, one with something of interest to your child. Look for special exhibits that appeal to your family.

~ Visit a wildlife rescue center near you. What a great way for all of you to see wildlife up close.

~ Speaking of seeing wildlife up close, visit a zoo in your area.

~ Ask your child what s/he would most like to do.

Highlights and Photos of our Trip:

Seeing FIVE big horn rams, all close to the road, on Bas’s 5th birthday

Seeing and hearing the bull elk bugle and fight over the femiales

Watching Bas throw rocks in the water, swing sticks as we walked down the trail, use trekking poles, want to catch fish, spotting elk poop.

Bas answering questions and being sworn in as a Junior Ranger after extensive research to complete his Jr. Ranger Book. He took great pride in that badge.

Bright golden leaves of the aspen

What are your favorite adventure spots with your family? What do you most enjoy! I’d love to have you share them in the Comments below.

Here’s to experiencing and cherishing all the joy and beauty life offers us!

Connie

Treasured Family Moments

I hope you and your family are doing wonderfully! I just returned from a delightful few moments with my son Orion and my two wonderful grandchildren Sebastian and Madison. Madi had a low fever this morning so she couldn’t come over to play with me as is our usual Thursday morning activity.

So I went over and spent relaxing time with them, admiring Madi’s new room, trying to get the zippers to work in Bas’s backpack, listening to the music Orion is creating on his iPad with GarageBand software.

And, of course, lots of hugging, kissing and “I love you’s” going around.

These are cherished moments for me and saying “Good by” always feels sad. As if I am disconnecting from a precious part of myself. I miss them the moment I drive away.

What are your treasured moments with your family?

Please share them below.

Happy trails!

To your Joyous Family!
Connie

Be Authentically Yourself with your Child

We just returned late yesterday afternoon from 3 glorious days of wilderness camping in the Sierra Mountains with our family – son Orion, daughter-in-law Nichola, wonderful grandchildren Sebastian and Madison.

I loved our time together exploring, hiking, laughing, sharing, cooking, sitting around the campfire and viewing the luminous stars overhead. Clever Orion quote: “The campfire is the TV of camping.” True! So many cherished memories from our annual adventure!

Copies of my book Joyous Child Joyous Family are flying out my door during my free book giveaway! I love that so many people are getting several to give to their family and friends.

One simple idea in this book can change your relationship with your child forever and support your child in being more fully herself for the rest of her life! Wouldn’t this be a magnificent gift to give yourself, your child, and those you love?

Reminder: My F.REE book giveaway with F.REE webinar ends this Friday so you still have time to get your copy and some for those you love. All I ask is you cover the small cost of shipping.

Go here to get your F.REE book(s).

Plus everyone who has a book, whether as a purchase or as a gift, is invited to participate in my F.REE Q & A webinar in September.

If you already have a copy of Joyous Child Joyous Parent and have not already registered for the webinar, go here to sign-up.

Today’s video Tip # 6: Be More Authentically Yourself with your Child

Wow! This is such an important component of parenting that it takes my breath away. Your child emotionally needs for you to be yourself, not the perfect parent. Too often, we act like the parents we think we should be, and not the people we honestly are in our hearts.

What do you do when you are being authentic with your child? I’d love to know. Please share in Comments below.

Happy trails!

To your Joyous Family!

Connie

I’m having so much fun giving my books away! I love giving parents the insights and tools I discovered that have made such a powerful, positive impact in my life, in my son’s life, my grandchildren’s lives, my clients’ lives, the lives of the young people I taught.

As part of my book giveaway, which is happening now, I am hosting a F.REE Q & A webinar for EVERYONE who has a copy of my book. If you already have a copy of my book, get one F.REE during the giveaway, whenever or however you got your copy, I’d love to have you join me for this event. You can register for the webinar here.

During the webinar, I will answer your questions and show you how to resolve your current parenting challenges by creating more emotionally nurturing, healthy interactions with your child. Emotional pain and confusion – yours and your child’s – are at the root of all your parenting difficulties.

When you discover how to work with emotions, you will see your discomfort and difficulties with your child dramatically improve or even disappear easily and quickly.

Here are some results you might observe:
~ You will be more patient and relaxed as a parent.
~ You and your child will have fewer arguments, meltdowns, incidents of yelling at one another.
~ Your child will be happier and more self-confident and self-reliant.
~ Your child will listen to you and be more cooperative.
~ You won’t need to repeat yourself multiple times to get results.
~ Your child will be more independent and self-responsible.
~ You will have significantly fewer worries and stresses as a parent.

If this sounds appealing to you, I invite you to get my book Joyous Child Joyous Parent today for F.REE during my giveaway. Go here to get your F.REE book.

If you already have a copy of my book, maybe one you purchased a couple of years ago and want to attend my webinar in early September, you must register before the event. Go here to register for the F.REE webinar.

Note: You MUST confirm that you want the information about the webinar in the follow-up email you will receive. If you do not confirm, you will not receive the access information for the webinar.

Remember, copies of my book are going quickly. When they are gone, the giveaway ends whether it is Monday or next Friday.

I’ll be thrilled to send you a F.REE copy of Joyous Child Joyous Parent and to have you join me for my F.REE pull-no-punches webinar, in which I will give you the best of what I know.

I wish you a fun, relaxing weekend with your family!

Happy trails!

To your Joyous Family!
Connie

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