3 Important Ways Teaching Manners Can Limit Your Child

I had my 2-year-old granddaughter Madison yesterday morning, and she must have said “Thank you” to me at least 5 times in the short time I had her.

In fact, “Thank you” were some of her very first words, and it always delights me to hear her say it. Especially since no one has ever told her to say this, and I certainly didn’t tell her yesterday.

She thanked me for putting on her socks, for holding her doll for her when she asked me to, for giving her some of the berry shake I made. Ready to have it be this easy with your child?

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I’m so excited about this convenient, affordable program, not only for the results you can have, but also because the traditional ways of teaching politeness and caring actually limit your child. I tell you all about this in my article below.

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Happy trails!

To your Joyous Family!
Connie

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New Article: 3 Important Ways Teaching Manners Can Limit Your Child

Teaching your child manners and kindness can seem to be pretty straight-forward. Just keep reminding him and telling her, and it will eventually sink it. After all, pretty much everyone you know is doing it this way, so it must be okay.

Not so!

Everyone agrees it is hugely important for children to be self-confident, self-reliant, self-expressive, and to have high self-esteem. In fact, in my recent survey, the most important topic parents want to know about is fostering self-confidence in their child.

You may believe that how you teach self-confidence is unrelated to how you teach politeness and caring to your child. When, in fact, I have found them to be intricately connected.

When you care about your child being self-confident, self-reliant, and having high self-esteem, every interaction matters. The more frequently you repeat a specific way of communicating with your child, the greater the impact and the more powerful a pattern becomes with long term effects.

On the surface, words like “Tell him thank you.” or “Say hello” seem innocent and harmless. Yet when you look at your meta message, the message behind your words, the message contained in your words, your child hears something different.

Your child hears, “I really don’t trust you to know or say the right thing. I have to tell you because if I didn’t, you’re basically incapable of knowing what to say.” Not a very self-confidence inducing message.

Children feel disrespected and treated ‘small’ when we tell them to parrot back what we say. I’ve heard 7 and 8-year-olds tell their parents, “Stop telling me what to say!”

Imagine if your boss or spouse frequently told you what to say. How would that feel to you? Would you like this person very much? Would you even want to be around them? Or would you feel unseen, annoyed, and want them to stop?

This information may come as a surprise to you, and you may not have looked at what you’re doing this way before. I invite you to consider it.

I totally know how much you want to be a good parent to your precious child. You would never intentionally, consciously do something that diminishes your child’s self-reliance and self-expression.

Now the ball is in your court. What can you do differently that encourages your child’s self-expression and self-confidence? What changes are you going to make in how you talk with your child?

These are hugely important questions to ask yourself.

By making your child’s self-confidence, self-expression, and self-reliance some of your highest priorities, you will discover more expansive, effective ways to relate with your child.

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Are You Missing Out on Heart-Felt Appreciation from Your Child?

Almost every parent I talk with in depth admits they don’t feel appreciated by their child.

Parents of young children don’t expect appreciation, believing their youngster is incapable of such awareness.

Parents of teens hate the lack of appreciation they receive for all they’ve done and are continuing to do for their adolescent, yet it is considered ‘normal behavior’ in teens.

Those parents with children between toddler and teen passionately hope their child will figure it out.

When my son was young, I committed to trying something different from what I saw parents around me doing…and with profound, amazing results. Now, observing my two grandchildren ages 2 and 5, I am continually blown away by their heart-felt appreciation, politeness and kindness toward me and others.

Watch the short video below to learn the most important part of developing appreciation in your child.

This is Not Cute!

~ Personal note from Connie

I hope you and your family are doing wonderfully! On Monday Doug and I trailered our horses to Sam McDonald County Park, my favorite place to ride. It was a warm, sunny day, perfect for a ride. One of our favorite trails goes down the ridge through lush vegetation, a pause for lunch, then a couple of stream crossings where our horses pause to drink.

Soon we are loping through the redwoods, surrounded by them. My hair is flying, the air is clear and sweet, and I am in bliss. I know of nothing I love more. Such freedom and joy!

We come back up the ridge, riding a single track trail and loping much of the way. My mare Destiny loves to run! She takes off for one final push to the top (She knew this was the final rise!).

We come thundering into the clearing at the top, and there maybe 50 feet in front of us, is a gorgeous mountain lion – yes, a mountain lion! – slinking off into the brush at the edge of the clearing. Destiny is so full of joy and perhaps she senses the cat’s fear that she acts as if it were nothing. As we walk away, Echo looks behind us. He noticed!

An exciting end to a breath-taking, joyous ride!

Happy trails!

To your Joyous Family!
Connie

~ LAST CALL! Do You Have a Copy of my Book?

If you do, you are invited to attend in my F.REE Q & A Teleclass happening next Monday, September 17.

It doesn’t matter when or how you got it – a gift, part of a program you took with me in the past, a purchase two years ago. As long as you have a copy of my book, you are invited.

You must register to participate. Register by going here.

~ New article: This is NOT Cute!

I saw this photo shared on Facebook with comments like “This is cute. Good reminder”, and within seconds, I am furious! This approach to helping children be more conscious, kind people is so limiting to them and to us, and I’m sure the people who put this together care deeply about children.

Yet we must ask deeper questions and be aware of the long-term effects of our approaches to raising and educating our children.

The kind of message taught on this poster tries to teach intellectual ideals – someone’s should’s – to the child, which lessens her natural consciousness and awareness as she tries to be what we want her to be. It puts children in their head and not their heart, their best source of wise inner guidance.

Sadly, this is one more example of adults misunderstanding how to bring out the best in children. It’s an approach we have known since we were raised as children, and we think, “How wonderful! Now children will know the ‘right’ way to behave!”

It never works the way we want. It is one more piece of information trying to make children be the way WE think they should be and that, in reality, takes them away from their natural inner knowing and desire to connect lovingly with others. It becomes one more ‘should’ for our children, and we all know how wonderful ‘should’s’ are.

If we want children to be kind and gracious toward others in their interactions, then we must closely examine our actions toward them and treat them with kindness and graciousness. It’s an every day moment-to-moment way of being, not a moment of teaching.

When we relate with them with a desire to control and to get them to be who WE want them to be, we are not being kind, gracious and considerate of them.

Then children lose their natural kindness and graciousness toward others. They begin to listen to us, to model us, and to act based on their thoughts and not their heart. They lose their spontaneity, their authenticity, their joy.

Children are not cute little playthings we can mold into our desires. Each young person is an amazing being with his / her own talents, desires, and dreams. If we want young people to be their best, we must create an emotionally healthy environment that empowers them from the inside out and not continue trying to get them to conform to our standards and ideals.

Here’s to freedom, joy, love and full self-expression for us all! When we give this to our children, we give it to ourselves!

Be Authentically Yourself with your Child

We just returned late yesterday afternoon from 3 glorious days of wilderness camping in the Sierra Mountains with our family – son Orion, daughter-in-law Nichola, wonderful grandchildren Sebastian and Madison.

I loved our time together exploring, hiking, laughing, sharing, cooking, sitting around the campfire and viewing the luminous stars overhead. Clever Orion quote: “The campfire is the TV of camping.” True! So many cherished memories from our annual adventure!

Copies of my book Joyous Child Joyous Family are flying out my door during my free book giveaway! I love that so many people are getting several to give to their family and friends.

One simple idea in this book can change your relationship with your child forever and support your child in being more fully herself for the rest of her life! Wouldn’t this be a magnificent gift to give yourself, your child, and those you love?

Reminder: My F.REE book giveaway with F.REE webinar ends this Friday so you still have time to get your copy and some for those you love. All I ask is you cover the small cost of shipping.

Go here to get your F.REE book(s).

Plus everyone who has a book, whether as a purchase or as a gift, is invited to participate in my F.REE Q & A webinar in September.

If you already have a copy of Joyous Child Joyous Parent and have not already registered for the webinar, go here to sign-up.

Today’s video Tip # 6: Be More Authentically Yourself with your Child

Wow! This is such an important component of parenting that it takes my breath away. Your child emotionally needs for you to be yourself, not the perfect parent. Too often, we act like the parents we think we should be, and not the people we honestly are in our hearts.

What do you do when you are being authentic with your child? I’d love to know. Please share in Comments below.

Happy trails!

To your Joyous Family!

Connie

I’m having so much fun giving my books away! I love giving parents the insights and tools I discovered that have made such a powerful, positive impact in my life, in my son’s life, my grandchildren’s lives, my clients’ lives, the lives of the young people I taught.

As part of my book giveaway, which is happening now, I am hosting a F.REE Q & A webinar for EVERYONE who has a copy of my book. If you already have a copy of my book, get one F.REE during the giveaway, whenever or however you got your copy, I’d love to have you join me for this event. You can register for the webinar here.

During the webinar, I will answer your questions and show you how to resolve your current parenting challenges by creating more emotionally nurturing, healthy interactions with your child. Emotional pain and confusion – yours and your child’s – are at the root of all your parenting difficulties.

When you discover how to work with emotions, you will see your discomfort and difficulties with your child dramatically improve or even disappear easily and quickly.

Here are some results you might observe:
~ You will be more patient and relaxed as a parent.
~ You and your child will have fewer arguments, meltdowns, incidents of yelling at one another.
~ Your child will be happier and more self-confident and self-reliant.
~ Your child will listen to you and be more cooperative.
~ You won’t need to repeat yourself multiple times to get results.
~ Your child will be more independent and self-responsible.
~ You will have significantly fewer worries and stresses as a parent.

If this sounds appealing to you, I invite you to get my book Joyous Child Joyous Parent today for F.REE during my giveaway. Go here to get your F.REE book.

If you already have a copy of my book, maybe one you purchased a couple of years ago and want to attend my webinar in early September, you must register before the event. Go here to register for the F.REE webinar.

Note: You MUST confirm that you want the information about the webinar in the follow-up email you will receive. If you do not confirm, you will not receive the access information for the webinar.

Remember, copies of my book are going quickly. When they are gone, the giveaway ends whether it is Monday or next Friday.

I’ll be thrilled to send you a F.REE copy of Joyous Child Joyous Parent and to have you join me for my F.REE pull-no-punches webinar, in which I will give you the best of what I know.

I wish you a fun, relaxing weekend with your family!

Happy trails!

To your Joyous Family!
Connie

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